On November 6, 2010 my husband and I got married and this year we celebrate 5 years of marital bliss. My husband loves cheese so here is the ultimate cheesy gesture and PDA: Happy Anniversary, Mr. Greenwell!
Our courtship was very short though we had been the best of friends for several years. On February 3 he told me he was in love with me, on July 3 he asked me to marry him and November 6 of the same year, we said “I do”. No, it wasn’t a shotgun scenario, just love. True love.
Anyone who is married or has been married knows it isn’t always rainbows and unicorns but they say if you can make it 5 years, you have a better chance of reaching ‘till death do us part. So with that are a few pieces of martial advice, Greenwell style.
Arguments happen. Some are big, some are small, and some can cause you not to speak for a few days. In our first year, we had a silent period over what I honestly cannot remember. I do, however, remember making up and how it shaped all future spats. Upon entering our home, I saw a beautiful bouquet of flowers and my husband wearing the most amusing glasses. The special glasses broke the silence and framed the apology. They were Buddy Holly style with eyebrows and a giant (insert word that rhymes with Nick and starts with a D) as a nose. You can imagine the sight! Our apologies from then on consisted of simply one of us putting on the glasses to admit we were being a (insert above word)-head which brought laughter and quick resolution. Last year we passed along those glasses to newlywed friends with the advice of always finding humor and humility in fighting.
Cherish tradition. Since being married, we have given homemade Christmas presents to keep the theme more on the thought, rather than the gift. My husband’s home-mades always trump mine despite my best efforts, but one of these years I will outdo him. Traditions are bonds that grow stronger each year.
Be friends. Life is so much sweeter when you have common interests and actually like to hang out with your spouse. Friendship was the origin of our relationship so we had a plutonic love and understanding prior to that first, awkward smooch when my best friend stuck his tongue down my throat.
Be physical every day. Ok, not that what you just thought of isn’t important, but it is not quite what I mean. I mean, hold hands, hug, kiss, put a hand on a knee, and go to sleep with a leg intertwined just to connect. It does make a difference and let’s be honest, it feels great to simply feel the fingerprint of someone who loves you.
And lastly, never forget to say “I love you”. Do it often and with meaning. Nick Greenwell, I love you and look forward to our forever.